Sambella. No Big Deal.

Sambella. No Big Deal.
Look! Sambella is flying!

Look! Sambella is flying!

My niece Sam is gay. Most of the time she is also happy. Other times she is in her Blue Funk but that is a topic for another post. Sam is a lot of things other than gay. She is funny, a chef, a sister, wicked good at backgammon and she has too many tattoos. Ok, that last one is an opinion. It is funny because when I think of Sam her being gay is not the first thing that pops into my mind. Honestly, we always knew Sam was gay. Maybe even before she did. There was no huge declaration or coming out she just told us and we just knew. No big deal. I could not love her more even  if she were my own and  I still wanted the same things I wanted for her before she came out that I wanted for her after she did.I want her to be happy, to find the perfect pair of jeans, to be loved, to go to Disney, to one day have a family of her own and to stop getting tattoos. I really only think about Sam in terms of being gay when the News runs a story or when Politicians are being stupid about it. I dont define Sam as gay or hetero. I define Sam as the wonderful person she is. I remember when my goddaughter, Angelina, who is know 13 was little she adored Sam. She loved spending time with her. She still does.When Angelina would talk about Sam it went something like this. “Auntie, when is Sam coming to visit? I love her” and “He is so much fun to play with.Do you think she will bring her guitar? When is he getting here?”. I laughed at her innocent confusion and how she would go back and forth between the two genders without missing a beat. I asked her Mom, my friend Michelle, if we should be concerned or speak with her and God Bless her she said “She sees Sam for who she is. It’s OK. No big deal”. I loved her for that. I have really good taste in friends. So, I was thinking maybe Angelina could go explain to the politicians of the world that Sam is Sam and whether you call her Samantha, Sam, Sambella or Poopy Head Sex Addict ( This refers to the years she was a Yankee’s fan which is a bigger concern than Sam merely being a lesbian. A Yankee’s Fan!?! I don’t think so!) She is a person that deserves the same rights as everyone else. It really is that simple. No Big Deal. Now if she would only stop getting tattoos…………

Showing of her new shoes. Too cool for school.

Showing off her new shoes. Too cool for school.

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  1. We love you too. Angelina has always loved Sam for who she is. Her big heart, her detailed attention to Angelina’s questions, her smile, her warm hugs and her infectious personality. WE LOVE YOU SAM!!!!!

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